The Bastard On The Couch!
"The BASTARD On The couch."
...by T.W. Jackson
This is a story of PASSION and POSITION.
Why would you think an artist, musicians, and actors are never seemingly alone even if they aren't very successful?
What is it about the "starving artist" type that makes most women swoon?
Even local garage bands that have never made it big have their own groupies...
Here's the secret... They have passion for what they do!
Let us explain what we mean by that, and break it down for you.
Men and women alike are attracted to other people that have PASSION.
Having passion about almost anything will make you extremely attractive to others. Especially if you have MULTIPLE PASSIONS. Having a passion for your career, a hobby, or a mission in life will position you to be attractive.
It is human nature to be hard wired for LIFE!
...So PASSION = LIFE!
...and PASSION also = ATTRACTION.
Now the same is also true of no passion. You are thus BORING and not so attractive. So what is it about the passion of a musician for his music that drives women wild?
The answer to that is his POSITION
A woman wants to be the ultimate #1 with a man. Ultimately she will have to fight with a man who is passionate about his music to be the #1 passion OVER his music... Right?
She must fight for his LIMITED attention and time. We value what's scarce more then what is readily available... it's just what makes humans tick. We don't even know why.
It comes down to that analogy of wanting what you can't have.
Make sense?
Just imagine James Bond if you will for a minute...
His passion is fighting for Britain, for the Queen, and saving the world!
A girl is lucky to have dinner and spend just one night with him, right?
Problem... Bond can't KEEP a girl long term... and we'll get to that in a sec...
But, you are probably thinking...
I'm definitely not a "Bond" type of man or woman...
How the heck does this apply to me?
Let us explain...
Maybe this a familiar story... Harry meets Sally... and Harry is passionate about his career, his hot rod, and playing his guitar in his band with his friends...
Harry is a good guy too. Sally and Harry go out and fall madly in love...
Meanwhile...
Some of the things Sally saw as "attractive" about Harry have become more of a threat now. She is feeling second best to his hot rod and even makes jokes about how much Harry loves his car then he does her.
Harry starts feeling like Sally is being "clingy" and feels some resentment...
Now this situation can carry on in many different ways...
What OFTEN happens is that Harry really does love Sally, and will end up selling his car, quitting the garage band, and even stop hanging out with his friends.
It doesn't happen all at once, but eventually down the road Harry and Sally end up getting married....
Harry and Sally go through life... have a few kids... going to work... living life and going through the same ol same ol of every day battles....
What happens is they have BOTH become PASSIONLESS!
Sally privately wonders what happened to the man she fell in love with.
And Harry begins feeling as if he can never make her happy...
After all he has sacrificed, nothing seems to work...
Harry becomes closed off, sullen, and bitter...
Harry becomes....
"The BASTARD on the couch!"
The passionless and sexless marriage of the relationship is the breeding grounds of all kinds of problems. Abuse and affairs usually follow...
What happened? What is the answer??
How can they get their PASSION back?
The very simple answer is BALANCE!
The balance of passion and position.
The core problem is misplaced and unfocused passion.
Sally focused ALL of her passion on HARRY.
BIG PROBLEM!!!
Meanwhile... Harry made the same mistake by directing all of his own passion towards making her happy... BIGGER PROBLEM!!!
THE SECRET:
Sally was doing what was "wired" into her very human nature to do... become #1
Harry was doing what he was "wired" to do by HIS nature... make her happy!
Now we bet some of our readers are saying out loud to themselves right now this very minute... "WHATS WRONG WITH THAT?!"
Well... we're taught that we're SUPPOSED to be completely and utterly SELFLESS in our relationships... right?
You just may start to understand our point here and see how this is all total wrong!
Now here's the flip side of that coin...
When we become UNBALANCED and we become self absorbed in our PASSIONS... then we become like those "Hollywood" relationships that never last... never seem to work out or survive more then a few years at best... We love our careers and "hot rods" or whatever it may be, more then our partners.
Do you see now how the man or woman that becomes a "workaholic" after a period of time, even after the family is financially secure, will MANY times
...love the passion of working, more then love the family?
The once attractive person has now over a period of time become UNBALANCED.
This makes them look like an unattractive ...and the resentment starts to brew...
It chokes out the love for our partners.
Suddenly the workaholic finds themselves without a family... they are now gone and what had once been the most important thing in their life...
Has become second best!
In ALL situations such as this... a RETURN to BALANCE and the focus of PASSION will breath new life and passion into a deflated relationship!
The whole thing truly is a balancing act.
When you're first learning how to ride a bike... it can be scary, right?
When we feel like we could fall over and smack our face into the hard cement at any second, it is VERY nerve racking isn't it? Learning how to do it correctly can take a while... especially if you don't know exactly what you're doing....
This is the EXACT reason why we make our recommendation...
Think of The Magic Of Making Up System as a means of "training wheels?
This system has been the"training wheels" for THOUSANDS of "Harry's and Sally's" alike... even workaholics too!
...and who knows?
Not only could you win back the one thing that is most important in your life, but what if you could find that healthy balance and passion for life again?
...by T.W. Jackson
This is a story of PASSION and POSITION.
Why would you think an artist, musicians, and actors are never seemingly alone even if they aren't very successful?
What is it about the "starving artist" type that makes most women swoon?
Even local garage bands that have never made it big have their own groupies...
Here's the secret... They have passion for what they do!
Let us explain what we mean by that, and break it down for you.
Men and women alike are attracted to other people that have PASSION.
Having passion about almost anything will make you extremely attractive to others. Especially if you have MULTIPLE PASSIONS. Having a passion for your career, a hobby, or a mission in life will position you to be attractive.
It is human nature to be hard wired for LIFE!
...So PASSION = LIFE!
...and PASSION also = ATTRACTION.
Now the same is also true of no passion. You are thus BORING and not so attractive. So what is it about the passion of a musician for his music that drives women wild?
The answer to that is his POSITION
A woman wants to be the ultimate #1 with a man. Ultimately she will have to fight with a man who is passionate about his music to be the #1 passion OVER his music... Right?
She must fight for his LIMITED attention and time. We value what's scarce more then what is readily available... it's just what makes humans tick. We don't even know why.
It comes down to that analogy of wanting what you can't have.
Make sense?
Just imagine James Bond if you will for a minute...
His passion is fighting for Britain, for the Queen, and saving the world!
A girl is lucky to have dinner and spend just one night with him, right?
Problem... Bond can't KEEP a girl long term... and we'll get to that in a sec...
But, you are probably thinking...
I'm definitely not a "Bond" type of man or woman...
How the heck does this apply to me?
Let us explain...
Maybe this a familiar story... Harry meets Sally... and Harry is passionate about his career, his hot rod, and playing his guitar in his band with his friends...
Harry is a good guy too. Sally and Harry go out and fall madly in love...
Meanwhile...
Some of the things Sally saw as "attractive" about Harry have become more of a threat now. She is feeling second best to his hot rod and even makes jokes about how much Harry loves his car then he does her.
Harry starts feeling like Sally is being "clingy" and feels some resentment...
Now this situation can carry on in many different ways...
What OFTEN happens is that Harry really does love Sally, and will end up selling his car, quitting the garage band, and even stop hanging out with his friends.
It doesn't happen all at once, but eventually down the road Harry and Sally end up getting married....
Harry and Sally go through life... have a few kids... going to work... living life and going through the same ol same ol of every day battles....
What happens is they have BOTH become PASSIONLESS!
Sally privately wonders what happened to the man she fell in love with.
And Harry begins feeling as if he can never make her happy...
After all he has sacrificed, nothing seems to work...
Harry becomes closed off, sullen, and bitter...
Harry becomes....
"The BASTARD on the couch!"
The passionless and sexless marriage of the relationship is the breeding grounds of all kinds of problems. Abuse and affairs usually follow...
What happened? What is the answer??
How can they get their PASSION back?
The very simple answer is BALANCE!
The balance of passion and position.
The core problem is misplaced and unfocused passion.
Sally focused ALL of her passion on HARRY.
BIG PROBLEM!!!
Meanwhile... Harry made the same mistake by directing all of his own passion towards making her happy... BIGGER PROBLEM!!!
THE SECRET:
Sally was doing what was "wired" into her very human nature to do... become #1
Harry was doing what he was "wired" to do by HIS nature... make her happy!
Now we bet some of our readers are saying out loud to themselves right now this very minute... "WHATS WRONG WITH THAT?!"
Well... we're taught that we're SUPPOSED to be completely and utterly SELFLESS in our relationships... right?
You just may start to understand our point here and see how this is all total wrong!
Now here's the flip side of that coin...
When we become UNBALANCED and we become self absorbed in our PASSIONS... then we become like those "Hollywood" relationships that never last... never seem to work out or survive more then a few years at best... We love our careers and "hot rods" or whatever it may be, more then our partners.
Do you see now how the man or woman that becomes a "workaholic" after a period of time, even after the family is financially secure, will MANY times
...love the passion of working, more then love the family?
The once attractive person has now over a period of time become UNBALANCED.
This makes them look like an unattractive ...and the resentment starts to brew...
It chokes out the love for our partners.
Suddenly the workaholic finds themselves without a family... they are now gone and what had once been the most important thing in their life...
Has become second best!
In ALL situations such as this... a RETURN to BALANCE and the focus of PASSION will breath new life and passion into a deflated relationship!
The whole thing truly is a balancing act.
When you're first learning how to ride a bike... it can be scary, right?
When we feel like we could fall over and smack our face into the hard cement at any second, it is VERY nerve racking isn't it? Learning how to do it correctly can take a while... especially if you don't know exactly what you're doing....
This is the EXACT reason why we make our recommendation...
Think of The Magic Of Making Up System as a means of "training wheels?
This system has been the"training wheels" for THOUSANDS of "Harry's and Sally's" alike... even workaholics too!
...and who knows?
Not only could you win back the one thing that is most important in your life, but what if you could find that healthy balance and passion for life again?